After 3 years of being married, today I have some alone time to spend as the husband is traveling without me. Yes, I haven’t been alone for so long that I’ve forgotten how to deal. Every time I see something change, I’m thinking “I wasn’t ready for this” but really are we ever ready for a change?
Over time, I have trained myself to be somewhat okay with change. In fact, I have made a conscious effort to make changes in my life in order to enable a better and healthier lifestyle. But, when it comes to changing as a person, it seems to be so difficult. I often catch myself saying “But that’s my nature, how do you expect me to change who I am?” and while this is a valid point, I fail to realize that change is the essence of growing as a person.
We think we are born one way and we remain that way all through our lives. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. Our nature and lifestyle are what we adopt from our surroundings. We are all born a blank slate and we absorb what we like from the world. Each and every one of us has changed numerous times to be who we are today. We may not realize it each time we change, but it definitely happens a lot. Yet, when someone talks to us about something that we are doing wrong, we feel attacked and we rush to say “That’s just who I am. I cannot change that”. Truth is, we always can and more often than not, it would really benefit us too. When we resist change, we resist growth and progress with it.
Look at caterpillars, their lifecycle involves constant change, but with each change, they move one step closer to being a beautiful butterfly. If they can do it, we can do it. On this Autumn Equinox, I welcome Fall and promise to accept changes with an open heart. I promise to strive to change as a person each time I see an opportunity for growth and progress. I want you all to promise yourselves the same. Be good to yourself. Love yourself.
